Single Saleem
By EmbHashmi
SaleemYounis, a 29 year old, self-employed football playing snooker loving Pakistani man from Sparkhill, is eagley seeking a wife; he has been searching for Miss Right for over two years without luck.
Saleem told Asian World “if my ideal woman was reading this I would say I am a genuine, down to earth and bubbly, no one could ever get bored with me around, I am very chatty”.
Saleem told Asian World “I love politics and maybe one day might stand for councilor after having firsthand experience in past elections having already attempted to grasp my local site. I enjoy and like helping people, I know of these five brothers who live near me, I taught them to play cricket, they are all married and have children and whenever I see them I think ‘why not me god’, what have I done to still be single”.
Saleem has attempted to follow the path of true love, but failed at the first hurdle “I was dating someone who I really liked, I took her picture home to my parents and my mum ripped her picture up in front of my face and told me she wants me to marry her niece”. That experience left Saleem a little disheartened, but did not want to lose his family so he reluctantly went along with his mother’s wishes agreeing to marry one of his cousins “I agreed reluctantly agreed to marry my first cousin to please my mother, my parents started the wedding arrangements by visiting my aunties house to seal the deal. My mother’s niece completely declined me and told her parents she will not marry me, and posted all my mother’s pre-marriage presents back to her in the post, after all this shame my mother still did not see the light and is now in Pakistan trying to force me to marry someone from there”.Saleem finds himself in a typical dilemma faced by millions of Pakistani’s like him on a daily basis.
Saleem said “I don’t want a wife, just to conform to his parents believes but because I feel I need stability and want to start a family”.
Saleem’s ideal wife would need to be Traditional, with modern outlook, someone who looks after his parents and he said is not very educated “I want a nice wife from here, I’m not bothered if she’s educated or not, but it’s important for my future wife to be able to speak English and drive, as it will be of great assistance to my mother or if I’m not around, girls from Pakistan struggle with the language and cant normally drive it would be very difficult and take a long time for them to settle in and get up to speed”.
Saleem said in extreme circumstances he would consider marrying outside of his culture but the woman would need to conform to his believes “If I found the woman of my dreams and she was not of my culture, my religion and my requirements I would ask her to change for me if she did not I could not marry her”.
“I wouldn’t marry my dream woman if she wouldn’t conform to my traditional values and live with my parents”
Saleem thinks honesty is important and decided from a young age that he would never spend huge sums of money on his wedding “I don’t want to spend a lot of money on my wedding as I heard about a wedding in Bradford recently where two solicitors of the south Asian culture had a love marriage and spend over £100,000 and during the end of the wedding the grooms mother fed some wedding cake to his bride, and accidently spilt some on her outfit and she swore at her mother in law, at this point the groom went on the mic and asked everyone if they were enjoying the wedding and then divorced his new wife”,Saleem said he couldn’t spend that amount of money, as this example clearly showed it all went to waste and he went on to say “there’s is no guarantee on how long your marriage will last in this day and age so why waste ridicules amounts of money”.
Saleems search for his wife goes on.
